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PE: The 'other' male sexual problem

18.05.12

Given the ease with which the average person can rattle off brand names like “Viagra” and “Cialis,” or joke about “four hour erections,” it would seem that erectile-dysfunction drugs are just about as common as ibuprofen.

We take it for granted, but the little blue pill has drastically changed the way we think about erectile disorder (ED).

Once known as “impotence,” ED was originally thought to be caused by anxiety, nerves, or low self-esteem; now it’s commonly known to be a health issue that hinges on the flow of blood to the penis and taking a pill to deal with the issue is often no big deal.

Don’t get me wrong: this is not to say that Viagra and its brethren – Levitra, Cialis and the new FDA-approved Stendra – are the be-all end-all, or even that they’re unequivocally effective. It’s just that these medications have helped to spur a national dialogue (and often a debate ) that has changed the way we think about sexual problems .

Source: CNN (blog)

'Til Lesbian Bed Death Do We Part

18.05.12

Let's not be dramatic. LBD is simply a fatalistic and sometimes homophobic catchphrase for what is really just a natural ebb in the regular ebb and flow all couples (straight or gay) experience in their respective sacks. Affairs, climbing divorce rates, Viagra and the dreaded premature ejaculation all tell me that the lesbian bed isn't the only one with a short lifespan. So why has our bed death taken on such a "reality" that even lesbian and queer women themselves buy it?

The only thing that makes the lesbian bed different than the straight one is that there are two ladies screwing in it (well, unless it's your birthday). Though this difference won't murder our bed on our 20th anniversary, it does make our sex lives look different than heterosexual ones.

With two women in the mix, we've got double the hormone fluctuations that can lead to low sex drive; two periods or two menopauses; and a longer average amount of time to get us both to climax. The absence of a biological penis means that his stamina and (on average higher) sex drive isn't dictating the sexual interaction. Though penile/vaginal penetration is a convenient sexual act that can work toward getting both partners off simultaneously, this also means that without an average 8-minute male ejaculation, our sexy time easily clocks in at an average of 30-60 minutes. Throw in strap-ons, vibrators and "taking turns" getting off and the lesbian sexual interaction can be a lot more daunting after work, dinner, dishes and bills.

Source: Valley Advocate